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Explore: What Is my Role in Becoming Me?

Over the past week or so, I've been soaking up Patti Digh's wise words in her book Creative Is a Verb.

In the chapter entitled "Be Ordinary: Put Down Your Clever," Digh writes about the value of being ourselves. Referencing Maslow's heirarchy of needs, Digh simplifies self-actualization with the label "I'm me." Digh describes that at the peak of self-actualization perches "the instinctual need of humans to make the most of their unique abilities." 

Digh goes on:

... As Maslow described it ... "What a man can be, he must be."

What must I be? What must you? And if we aren't those things, how do we feel? How do we even know it, just as knowing about labor pains really requires being in the throes of them?

Evidently, Maslow tells us, these needs make themselves felt in signs of restlessness. "If a person is hungry, unsafe, not loved or accepted, or lacking self-esteem, it's easy to know what the person is restless about. It's not always clear what a person wants when there's a need for self-actualization."

Ain't that the truth.

Reading these paragraphs has led me to ponder some Big Questions:

Are we indeed meant to be something specific?

Is it reasonable to expect that self-actualization—becoming ourselves—will happen naturally on its own?

What role do we play in our own self-actualization—our "becoming ourselves?"

Consider an experience visiting the top-most rated restaurant in the world. Just having the desire to visit the peak restaurant (the peak of self-actualization) won't bring me there. I must make arrangements to get there via reservations and transportation. I choose who will accompany me. Once I'm there, my own actions and attitudes determine the quality of the experience. The restaurant staff (people in my life) don't read my mind and deliver my favorite vittles; I choose from the menu based on my preferences and choose what portion I will consume. The restaurant exists; my experience ultimately depends on my choices and the role I play as a patron.

How, then, can I expect to "become me" without taking an active role in choosing, based on my unique preferences, from what the world (the restaurant) has to offer?

Becoming Tulips - www.LearnExploreShare.comWhat do you think?

What does "being me" means to you?

Has there been a time when you have recognized a shift in your understanding of what it takes to "be you?"

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